BUFFALO, N.Y. (WKBW) — "People don't want to hear about babies dying, they just don't. They want to think when someone's pregnant, you have a baby, at the end life is grand. The world is perfect, but that not what happens. It's not what happens in one in four pregnancies," a bereaved mother of two said.
Dawn Both-Kim of Lackawana loss both of her daughters.
“I wear a necklace with their footprints on them and I wear them everyday. They are a part of me.”
Her eldest daughter passed away in 2004.
“I was still in surgery from the C-section so I didn’t get to see her alive," she said. "My whole life, that will always bother me.”
Her second daughter passed in 2007.
“I would love to know how my daughters laughed. I would love to know that.”
Dawn is one of the thousands of women who have a loss a child before hearing their first word.
“Its like being a part of a very elite club that no one wants more people to join.”
But many woman are a part of that club.
“It is a very a taboo subject," Dawn said. "'I don’t wanna make you sad.' Well guess what? I'm already sad. ‘I don’t want to make you think about your losses.’ Well guess what? I think of my daughters every day.”
Dawn said if it weren’t for the support of the WNY Perinatal Bereavement Network, she does not know where she would be.
“To know that you’re not alone, to know that other people have experienced this and survived. That is so helpful.”
And for those who have not loss a child, but would like to comfort someone who has Dawn said, "the only thing really you can say is I'm sorry."
So to all the bereaved parents out there, the message from other mothers, we see you, we hear you, and we send our deepest condolences.