Going From Grief to Joy

October 24, 2013 Updated Oct 24, 2013 at 7:52 AM EDT

By WKBW News

October 24, 2013 Updated Oct 24, 2013 at 7:52 AM EDT

Going From Grief to Joy
By Jaclyn Asztalos

A new program is helping people who are facing a loss.

North Buffalo, N.Y. (WKBW) - Arriet Durham's went through a hard time in his life.

“I get a call from where my mother was living, saying they haven't see her. I went to her home and found her dead in the bathtub,” Durham said.

He said he couldn’t grieve for his mother.

“As a leader in the church and in my professional life, we are expected to act a certain way so I just buried it,” Durham said.

He said he hid his emotions for a longtime until something began to happen.

“I was acting out emotionally, holidays were tough. I had personal guilt. Did I do enough? Should I have been there,” Durham said.

That is when he knew he needed help. Durham belongs to the North Buffalo Community Church. They started a program called Grief Share that helped his though.

“Grief Share opened up things that I had buried that I didn't even realize that I had buried,” Durham said.

William Smith is the pastor at the church. He said Grief Share help him when he lost his father. He said in today’s day and age people just moving on without giving themselves the proper time to heal.

“I don't have time, I got to go to work, I can't concentrate on that. But Grief share will help get ministry in the soul and move from morning to joy,” Smith said.

It is a 13-week program that the men said is free and optional. Sharing your experience is encouraged but they say you can also listen.

“Grief Share is starts to open up grief process and transition to moving forward. It doesn't erase everything. You don’t go to Grief Share and 13 weeks your better. It really helps to just put things into perspective,” Durhams said.

Durham said when you are mourning perspective is key. Grief Share can help you move on with your life, while also keeping those you lost close to your heart.